Sometimes it’s just so crazy – the length we do for other people. Azry and I have been contemplating over buying a house for quite sometime, and all the variations of show houses we have been visiting – none of them seem to match our preference. I’m sorry, to be exact, the preference of the people surrounding us. I love small houses, been influenced by the idea of minimalism & IKEA showrooms and the interior design of the apartments in the US sitcoms I grew up with. Azry loves small houses for there will be less space to clean, and also “because we could find each other from every other end of the house.”
Too big is too pricey, too small is too crowded – what if our families decide to stay for the month, what if the siblings decide to hold a family reunion at our place, what would the aunts and uncles say if our house is not as big as their children’s. Every notion leads back to what families & friends would think without taking into consideration of what we actually want.
OT: I had a conversation with a fellow designer while I was working in Penang – most parents lovingly & forcefully twist the arms of their children to live their dreams for them because when they were children themselves they were busy living the dreams of their own parents. We too in turn would become parents who would urge our children to live our unfulfilled dreams for us. It has sadly become a vicious cycle we have to live and endure for the lifetime.
P/s: I fell in love with a red LINNARP desk in the as-is section of IKEA – but it is still dearly priced at MYR350. Also I’ve been saving for quite sometime for Delhi, and turns out both my and Azry’s car’s timing belts need replacing. There goes our vacation money. Or maybe Heaven's trying to send a sign that we should take a vacation somewhere local instead. Sigh. (Photo from whatmakesyoubeautiful)
4 comments:
Just rent! Or buy a smaller and cozy place - without offending the parents because they can really be useful in giving out much needed funds during emergencies :P Just make your preferences known CLEARLY. Look at us - we live in a rented condo not more than 1000 sq ft and last CNY we had in total 12 people sleeping in all corners of the house. Just tolerate a bit, but don't kena bully all the time :)
good luck! :D
don't you just hate car sometimes...hate them but need them badly.ngee
don't you just hate car sometimes...hate them but need them badly.ngee
Buy something you both like - and can afford. The parents (they can come anytime..) and the siblings (best to keep them out most of the time) may not come as often if it were small anyway.. dont la think so much about the visitors. You two are most important (oh, and you have to invite me too of course)
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